Thursday, December 1, 2011

Lindsay Below Talks about Domestic Violence


Today my guest is multi-published author, Lindsay Below.  Her latest release from MuseItUp Publishing is a sensitive look at a disturbing issue, domestic violence.

In my latest release, I tackled a very serious issue. Same Old Lie is a middle grade novella about domestic abuse.

Per year, the domestic conditions of approximately 1 in 45 children aged 0-15 are investigated. Of these investigations, roughly half result in the discovery of some form of abuse at home.

Domestic abuse is any form of abuse when it occurs at home. The abuser could be a parent, sibling, cousin, aunt or uncle, grandparent, boyfriend or girlfriend, or spouse. Below are some examples of abuse which might occur in the home:

Physical Abuse
When the victim is hit, slapped, shoved, or otherwise abused in a physical way.

Verbal Abuse
When a victim is put down or made to feel worthless by words or derogatory names. This also includes harassment of a sexual nature, if someone is made to feel uncomfortable by jokes or innuendos. Sometimes, this can be done unintentionally. The best way to combat it in that case is to confront the abuser and inform them that such comments make you feel uncomfortable. Chances are, they’ll stop.

One in three cases of emotional abuse are a result of verbal abuse. More commonly, emotional abuse results from exposure to violence in the home, as are approximately three in five cases.

Neglect
This form of abuse is more of an issue in younger victims. Neglect in an adult, while unpleasant and certainly demoralizing, is not as serious as neglect of a child. If the child cannot provide for himself, this may result in malnourishment or even death. Neglect is the most common form of child abuse. A lack of supervision resulted in physical harm to the child in roughly half the cases.

Sexual Abuse
When a victim is kissed or touched sexually against their will.      

Victims of abuse often have difficulty coping. Over one half of abuse cases resulted in depression or anxiety, behavior problems, negative peer interactions, violence to others, irregular school attendance, or developmental delay.

Abuse is a serious issue. Some people may hide the effects all their lives. Deep down inside, the emotional effects never truly go away. Those who do confess what happened may end up learning to cope in healthier ways. But sometimes, help may end up arriving too late, or not at all. Approximately 63% of child deaths are at the hands of a family member.

Learn more about domestic abuse here.


More about Same Old Lie:

Blurb:

Heather is the clumsiest girl anyone has ever seen. Or so Trevor thought, along with the rest of his classmates. But when he reads her diary, he realizes her clumsiness might just be a cover for something sinister going on at home.

Has Heather been lying to him? Or does the diary tell the lies? Trevor doesn’t know if his best friend is in mortal danger—or just playacting. What is he going to do?

Buy from MuseItUp Publishing at http://bit.ly/SameOldLie. Also available at Amazon Kindle, Barnes and Noble, Omnilit, and more.

Excerpt:

As the class stampeded from the room, I hung back, waiting to see why Mr. Henderson was calling on her.

“Heather,” he said softly, so softly I could barely hear him. Slowly, I inched closer. I didn’t want to move too quickly, in case he remembered I was there and stopped talking. “Where did you get those bruises?”

Bruises? When he brushed his fingers against his cheek, I realized it wasn’t paint on Heather’s face, after all. It was another bruise. How did she get one there?

Heather’s fingers mirrored his, lightly touching her skin. Her eyes were as big as Frisbees, as if she’d only realized then that her bruise was visible. “I…I fell down the stairs,” she said. Her voice was scared, like she was afraid he would punish her for being clumsy.

Slowly, Mr. Henderson said, “If something bad is happening at home, Heather, you can tell me. Or Mr. Montgomery. Or even the school nurse. We can help you.”

She started to shake her head, slowly at first, then more violently. “I fell down the stairs,” she repeated.

I couldn’t leave her like that. She looked like a deer caught by a hunter.


Learn more about Lindsay Below at her website, www.lbelow.net.
 

4 comments:

  1. Thank you for having me, Penny! (sorry I'm a day late visiting)

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  2. My pleasure, Lindsay. Sorry more people didn't comment who stopped by, but I know they were here lurking :-)

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  3. Hello L.K.

    Abuse is such a big problem in our society. It comes in all shapes and sizes. Do you think it well ever stop? Some people don't even realize they are doing it. Some do. I think it's all about control. We have some very sick minds out there.
    I hope everyone reads your ms.

    Lorrie

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  4. Hi Lorrie,

    Thank you for stopping by to read my post. I'm not sure if it will ever stop, but I think that being aware when it is and isn't happening will be the first step in helping to combat it.

    Best,

    Lindsay

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